I get this question a lot when I share transformation pictures, and I always sense a feeling of disappointment when I share that there’s no magical trick, I simply follow a nutrition plan and exercise.
But it got me thinking about what else I could share to help, and one thing that has certainly changed over the past couple years has been my mindset.
I can honestly say for the first time in a really long time, I stopped tying my goals to my weight.
𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 “𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭” 𝐨𝐫 “𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐮𝐩”.
This was the case at times when I had no weight to lose, and also when I had 30+ lbs to lose.
𝘔𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴.
Slowly, over the past year or so my goals have started to shift, and interestingly so has my body.
When I stopped focusing on my weight and started focusing on improving my fitness, feeling better, and pushing myself during my workouts, I started to notice that my body changing was a byproduct, but no longer the focus.
I stopped stressing about a number on the scale, and started to get a lot less frustrated with my progress or lack thereof. Instead I simply focused on how I could feel my best and healthiest each day.
I no longer feel like I need to start and stop a program, fall on or off track, or start the next diet on Monday.
If you are someone who feels plagued by your weight or the scale, or forever stuck in the yo-yo diet cycle, I want to assure you, it doesn’t have to be forever.
Focus on moving your body more.
Focus on fueling your body better.
Focus on how much better you want to feel.
When you focus on your health, on your fitness, on your mindset…
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞.
On my coaching journey I had a small group of people who didn’t really believe in me.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘓𝘖𝘖𝘒 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.
And for a really long time I let the opinions of those few people really hold me back.
𝐈 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲.
Then I met some very amazing people.
A boss who helped me through many breakdowns in his office, yet still hired me and taught me everything he knew about fitness.
A retired special ed teacher who had built my dream business working from home, and saw something in me I most definitely did not.
The most amazing fitness friends and coaches who worked right alongside me to get better every day, and sometimes just show up for therapy.
With time, I slowly learned to stop focusing on the small group of people who doubted me, and started to focus on the larger group of people who loved and supported me. That’s where my journey changed.
It can be really easy to focus on the negative people right along with all of the things we think we lack, but I want to challenge you to see past that.
Focus on the people who do believe in you, even if you don’t have much faith in yourself just yet.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰. 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐫. 💛
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐’𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘫𝘰𝘣 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘴.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘹𝘺𝘻.
Guess what? No matter what changed, and what I accomplished, happiness never came.
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭.
I started to focus on finding happiness in the little things.
I started to find gratitude in the small things I had right now.
I started to live more in the present instead of wishing for the when.
My life may be upside down right now, and there is a lot I wish would change, but I also know that it is 100% out of my control. What I can control is my mindset so I’m 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 to be grateful and happy.
What about you?! 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 ?
𝘈 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘢 𝘣𝘺-𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘭𝘦.
Fueling your body better.
Addressing your mindset.
Building up consistent, positive habits.
Let’s stop judging other’s decisions to better their health.
Everyone gets to decide how they will feel best in their own body.
𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵? 𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶.
When we stop comparing, stop judging, and start focusing on our own individual journeys that’s when the positive change happens.
𝗪𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬, 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧, 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥 𝐈’𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮. You gotta do you boo 😘
P.S. sharing after hearing all the controversy over Adele’s weight loss. I think she looks great, but what matters more to me is that she’s feeling the healthiest and happiest she can in her skin. 🖤 What’s your take?
If there’s one thing I know, it’s that it’s been a major work in progress for me right now.
Some days I do amazing.
Other days… complete trainwreck.
Panic for no reason (or a thousand reasons), inability to focus, tears, worry… if you’ve struggled with anxiety before you know the drill.
𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸.
𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭.
If I’m anxious, I own it. I accept that it’s tough right now, and give myself some grace for feeling a little crazed during this time.
𝐈 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐭.
It can be so easy to isolate and keep my feelings bottled in, but I am trying to push myself to admit that I am having a tough time when I am.
Whether it’s getting up and walking around my house, going for a walk with Sophie or forcing myself to workout (even though it’s usually the LAST thing I feel like doing), it never fails to break up my anxiety and put me in a better headspace.
𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐲 𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤.
I’ve always been really good at staying as busy as possible to distract myself from my anxiety and yes, that has been helping a ton, BUT I’m also finding the opposite is necessary sometimes too. This means allowing myself to take a break when I normally wouldn’t; sitting outside and soaking up some sunshine or getting off of my phone and shutting down my laptop for a bit.
And most importantly, 𝐈 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐢𝐭 and create as much normalcy, routine, and consistency as I can.
Anxiety is forever going to be a struggle for me but, the more I learn to understand it, manage it, and accept it, the easier it can be to tackle one day a time, and that’s literally what I’m doing right now.
𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐭 𝐚 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞.