Hi Everyone! I’m on Mind, Body, Green today! Be sure to check out my latest post: “Ditch your Nighttime Eating Habit for Good”. I will give you a four step plan to put an end to your nighttime eating problems forever. I can’t wait to share this with you.
Last week I started to talk about my fear with eating out. I mentioned some anxiety over self-created food rules and how I fought back. One thing I have yet to address however is the anxiety that eating in front of people once caused me.
Since I had a lifelong battle with my weight, I always felt uncomfortable eating in front of others. I felt as though I was “too big” to be eating and didn’t deserve to eat what my normal “thin” friends or family were eating. This belief caused a great deal of self-consciousness around my eating and took a lot of work to undo.
I still remember being in middle school and packing my Jenny Craig bar to eat for lunch. I would hide the wrapper in my hand because I didn’t want anyone to know I was eating “diet” food or even worse “on a diet”. I graduated from my diet bars at lunch to simply just skipping lunch in school, as I got older. I was so self-conscious about how I looked that I didn’t want anyone to see me eating and think I was eating the “wrong foods”. I would then come home from school starving and all that work I had done trying to “not eat” was totally undone.
As my emotional eating struggles continued right along with my food fears, my weight continued to yo-yo and my fear of not wanting to be seen eating came right back. Even eating in front of family scared me because I was so afraid of someone judging my choices.
As I continued to work through these struggles, I realized something; the only person judging my food choices was me. I was the one who was guilty of putting so much emphasis and fear on my food. I was the one stopping myself from enjoying dinners out because I was so afraid of what someone else might possibly think.
Let’s analyze this. We are all humans. We all need food to survive and give us energy. Period. Tweet it! Yes some people do judges other based on their food choices, but do that slim margin of people really matter? What matters is that we are enjoying our lives, giving ourselves energy, doing something that most people in the world do on a daily basis. When I started to take that negative stigma away from eating in front of others, I started to notice improvements. Sure certain days I still struggle with this, but I continue to fight it each and every time I do.
Is this something that resonates with you? I’ve gotten rid of my personal fear of eating in front of others and now I want to help you. Send me an email at [email protected] and we can get you set up for a body image and emotional eating strategy session. I can’t wait to hear from you!
I’ve been trying to write a post to pinpoint my feelings on eating out for a very long time. I always got hung up because it is such a fearful topic for me. It wasn’t until I went out this past week that I really got clarity on what I had to say.
Let me know if you can relate to this: because I was always “on a diet”, eating out was a very taboo thing to do. I despised not knowing what was in my food, feeling like I couldn’t control my portions, and feeling like I had to stick to my diet, but most of all I hated to eat in front of people.
We’ll talk about the hating to eat in front of people in part two but for now let’s address those fears from eating out. So this past week I made plans to go out to dinner with a friend. Totally normal, right? Since I’ve been fighting my fears of weight gain and battle with ditching the scale I have gotten so much better about eating out.
Needless to say when my friend suggested going to a gluten free pizza place, I started to freak out a bit. I thought I had passed my fear of eating out so why all of sudden was there a lump in my throat? Why was I scanning the menu to see if there was a salad I could order instead? Multiple thoughts ran through my head before going: would I have the energy at CrossFit the day after? Would I have a major “fat day” the following day? Would I eat everything in sight after eating the pizza? All this fear over a piece of gluten free pizza. Seriously.
It was after this minor freak out that I realized something; this was about so much more than just the “pizza”. This meant I was letting go of another one of my “food rules” I had created in my mind. If I fought this and went out and had some gluten free pizza I would realize that it was totally okay to eat it. I would see my progress and most of all enjoy my time with my friend. So I went, I ordered gluten free pizza, paid attention to my hunger, and enjoyed it. Not once did I actually stress about what I was eating while I was there.
This story has two main points, one is I want to show that I too still struggle and I plan on continuing to struggle, but I also plan on fighting. Had this been a year or two ago that pizza would have never been eaten, instead I would have eaten a bowl of lettuce, and gone home starving, probably left to eat more than I would have with just the pizza. Either that or I would have cancelled with my friend, and yes I was that bad.
Now while this certainly caused me some anxiety I was able to get through it and totally enjoy myself and I absolutely think you can too. My other point is that I was totally fine eating the freaking pizza. I ate it, was satisfied, woke up normal and hungry the next day, and had plenty of energy to work out. So the next time you start to freak out about breaking a “food rule” you have created or get that major anxiety rush that eating out can cause, I want you to reality check yourself. Ask is it worth the fear? Is it worth the obsession? Take that leap and step outside your comfort zone. You might surprise yourself
Anyone else struggle with eating out? What creates the most fear for you and how have you overcome it?
Have you ever felt like there’s nothing you can do to stop eating cookies? You’ve had a bad day or you’re feeling sad and it just seems like that cookie will fix everything. Did you know that’s there’s actually a solution? Today I’m going to share with you one of the strategies my VIP coaching clients have learned to stop their emotional cookie eating.
To start, let me tell you about one of my VIP clients…
I am currently helping Anna through her own struggle with emotional eating and it has been quite the journey. When we began working together she was ready to give up. After admitting to me that she ate a little too much birthday cake the night before and she was done fighting we started to work together. Then one day I received a text: “I really want a cookie but I know my body doesn’t need one”. Breakthrough! While she fought the cookie, I started celebrating. We made progress. Instead of her going for that cookie we discussed why exactly she “felt” like the cookie and what feeling she was trying to get from eating the cookie. Turns out she needed a little bit of love, comfort, and happiness.
We then talked about some different ways she could find those feelings of comfort she needed without eating a cookie. What would make her so happy to do? How could she feel loved? One of the hardest parts of all of this is actually admitting that we are lacking in something. Who wants to admit that they are lonely, or uncomfortable, or sad. But here’s the thing, when we don’t acknowledge what’s lacking and we quiet our needs with food over and over again we never fix the problem. We never sit in that uncomfortable place. Once we do we can finally recognize the problem and take steps to heal it.
Does this mean Anna hasn’t craved a cookie since? Nope, but it does mean that she has become just a little more aware of how she is feeling. She knows when she craves food at times when she’s not hungry it’s likely for a reason. She now stops and sits and experiences what exactly it is she is feeling and what she needs. Together we are then able to explore how she can get what she needs. Maybe it is a walk outside, or a date with her boyfriend, or a call to her mom. Whatever it is she goes out and does rather than seeking satisfaction from that cookie. Because truth is, the cookie will be gone in seconds and what next? The cycle starts all over again. Is this sounding familiar to you? If this is an area you tend to get hung up on I want to help you get unstuck!
If you’re struggling like Anna is, I want to invite to take advatange of one of my 3 spots I have open for an emotional eating strategy session.
I am currently offering a one-hour power session for anyone battling with emotional eating and would love to offer you support in this area.
Once I receive your email or your session confirmation you will receive an invoice for $100.00. Once it is paid I will be in touch to book your strategy session.
I can’t wait to talk with you!