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The Struggle is Real…

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Today, I wanted to share something that I would have never had the courage to share years ago. But something I’ve learned is that this is something that so many women struggle with, but no one really talks about, so I’m going to talk about it.

This past month has been a struggle for me, and for me struggle means I go back to past coping mechanisms. After years of suffering from an eating disorder and anxiety, you can only imagine that my former coping mechanisms have something to do with my food, my weight, emotional eating (and not eating) and manipulating the way my body looks.

So, in an effort to control the things that I couldn’t control, I decided, why not control my diet. I decided to change things that were already working because I wanted more “control”.

I decided to “go paleo”. Maybe that would make me feel better. Reality, it failed. All I wanted was chocolate. Then I had visions in my head of looking like the other girls on Instagram and restricting my calories. I ended up a failure, with tummy rumbles on day one, and way more than a teaspoon of peanut butter was consumed.

I felt like a DIET FAILURE.

Comparison. Emotional Eating. And a need for CONTROL got the best of me. I wanted to share this to show that we all struggle. We all have bad habits, and things we fall back on, but they are there for us to learn from.

In reality when we diet, when we restrict our food, emotionally eat, and play the comparison game, we are not in control. the diet is in control, the rules are in control, we as humans are not. So decide to make a lifestyle change, figure out what works for YOU as an individual, and stick with it, with laser focus and tunnel vision.

Don’t get derailed by shiny objects, wraps, and skinny teas 😉

Need Someone to Knock the Cookies out of your Hand?!

Today is my Birthday and I’ll be honest, I’ve never been a fan of it. I’ve never been one to love all the attention on me, but for years my birthday haunted me for a very different reason…the cake.

The build up to my birthday was the worst, I would diet like a crazy person, was starving all week long, cranky, and miserable. By the time my birthday hit, I was ready to dive head first into the cake. I would get a sugar headache, feel sick, and then spend several days in regret and serious restriction mode.

If you’ve ever experienced this before, you just get it. Body shaming, constant attempts at weight loss, and feeling like a ‘crazy person’ around food, is something that’s just a bit too common among women these days.

Now here’s the deal, I used to offer coaching for women who struggled with these feelings, however I have since shifted my focus to more of a healthy lifestyle, fitness, and nutrition approach. But, that doesn’t mean these problems don’t exist and need to be addressed.

There are certain people who come to me, desperate to lose 10lbs, but can’t seem to get it together. They can’t put down the cookies, or they can’t stop thinking about their next meal, they can’t find sanity around food.

That’s were Isabel comes in. 

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Isabel Foxen Duke is a good friend and colleague of mine who I always refer my clients out to. You see here’s the thing, before you can start living a healthy lifestyle, you need to have a healthy mindset and that’s exactly what Isabel preaches.

Isabel’s running a free video training series this month that I’m SUPER pumped about. This training shares some of her most critical insights on emotional eating, binge-eating, diet-binge cycling, and “generally feeling crazy around food.”

Isabel won’t only address your emotional eating patterns — she’ll help you end all the crazy-making food and body thoughts that instigate those patterns to begin with. You know, so food stops tempting, taunting and tantalizing you…and starts just being food.

Knowing Isabel’s work myself, I can attest that this chick knows what she’s talking about and produces serious results in the emotional eating world — if these are issues you struggle with, I highly recommend that you take a look and sign up for the training – it’s totally free!

When you Stop Obsessing Over the Scale, This Happens…

Today I am in a bad mood. I am frustrated, sad, and unusually lonely feeling, and to be honest, I’m pretty excited about it. Why you ask? Because for the first time in a really long time, I can tell you I am in a bad mood. I feel sad. I feel grouchy. I feel unmotivated. I am feeling. I am close to tears and feeling through every bad emotion, but there are some things I am not doing…

I am not polishing off a box of cookies, or plotting my next “cheat” meal.

I am not meal planning, calorie counting, or strategizing on what my next diet will be.

I am even not feeling ugly, or fat, or unworthy because of my size.

For the first time, I am feeling my emotions without forcing them onto my body or my food. My sadness is not affecting how I feel about my thighs. My exhaustion is not making me run for the kitchen. My loneliness is not being blamed on my weight.
When you stop obsessing over your food and body all the time, things like this will come up. You will actually start to feel things you haven’t in a long time, and until you start to do this, you won’t realize how beautiful sadness can be.



A Bagel Story…

Huge news! I ate a bagel for lunch today. It was full of carbs and grains, and it was certainly not balanced out with a vegetable. I toasted it and topped it with goat cheese and it was amazing.


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And guess what? It did not result in a raging sweet tooth I couldn’t kick, an afternoon nap, or a rumbling tummy 10 minutes later.

You see, for a very long time, I believed that carbs were “bad” and should be limited. All they led to was a sugar crash, hunger, and exhaustion. In the past, if I ate one of these terrible, carb-loaded foods, lets say a bagel; it would lead me to do one of two things.

One, I would eat it, full of guilt, and vow to eat a salad for dinner to “balance” it out. There would likely be an extra workout in my future, and I would be hungry 10 minutes after eating it, simply because I told myself I would be. Plus, I knew that I had an evening filled with lettuce ahead of me.

The second thing that might happen was that I would eat one bagel that would be so delicious, it would turn into 2, and then, who knew when I would another bagel again, so it would turn into 3, and so on and so forth. I’d end up miserable, guilty, swearing off bagels for another eternity and start a new diet the following day.

Today was different for a couple reasons. For starters, I was craving a bagel for the past few days. In the past, this would have gone on for months, before I gave in and it would be way too late. This time, I picked up my favorite gluten free brand at the store and knew I could have one any time I wanted.

Well, I wanted one for lunch today so I ate one. There was no debating about whether it was a good decision, or whether I had already eaten carbs with breakfast, I just ate it. I ate it knowing I could have another tomorrow or the next day, or even in an hour if I was still hungry for it. I enjoyed it. There was no guilt, no judgment, no labeling my food. It was just food.

I moved on and got started with work, felt hungry a bit later and had a mango. Nothing groundbreaking. I wasn’t hungry again until dinnertime. In fact, I didn’t even realize what had happened until just now, hours after eating and enjoying a bagel for lunch.

Now that was a lot of talk about one bagel, but if you struggle with food, you know why I’m excited. In summary, here’s what I did to not freak out over a bagel…

  •  I ate the food I wanted when I craved it.
  • I did not label my food as anything (good, bad, etc…)
  • I did not pass judgment on my food choice
  • I knew that I could have the same food whenever I wanted it. There were no diets ahead!

Want to do the same? Let me know by applying for a totally free strategy session with me. Together we can put a stop to your diets for good!

P.S. My very first podcast interview with the Lifestyle Accountability Show is up today! Check it out here.

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The Tale of the Midnight Brownie (Part 3)

Here is your third and final reason for nighttime snacking. This is the BIG one! 

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