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Reminder 💕

You are not fat.
You are not ugly.
You are not shy.
You are not alone.
You just have yet to see the strength inside of you. 
The beautiful person you really are.
You have yet to discover that your beauty isn’t defined by your weight.
That you deserve the love you give to everyone else.
That you are capable of anything you desire as long as you are brave enough to try.
Once you realize the power of loving yourself NOW, right where you’re at, you’ll watch your world change. 💕
You are strong.
You are beautiful.
You are capable.

dan

Because Even Giselle Has Taken a “Fat Picture”

As you may have noticed things are looking a little bit different on my blog lately. To accompany an awesome new design, my totally amazing business coach, Liz Theresa suggested I have pictures taken for my website. A tiny ball formed in the pit of my stomach. I proclaimed my hatred of having my pictures taken, and put if off for a couple months, until I really needed to update my site.

That tiny little ball grew a little bigger as the photo shoot got closer. I will totally admit it too, flashes of diets and extra workouts popped in and out of my head for a few weeks leading up to my pictures. I pushed them to the side, owned myself, and got clear on the message of my pictures.

I was not taking these pictures to prove how awesomely skinny and in shape I was. These pictures were going to be a representation of just how happy I was in my business. How vibrant and alive I feel now that I am finally having peace with my food. Having a flat stomach, the day of my photo shoot, did not matter.

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So for the first time in forever, I did not diet before having my pictures taken. The day before was not full of kale, green juice, and water. I actually went into the day with a positive attitude. They’re just pictures after all right?

Fast-forward a week. The link to the pictures popped up in my inbox on my phone. Nervously I clicked it open and did not like what I saw. Sure a couple were okay but nothing amazing and I definitely saw some “fat” pictures. I closed my email and moved on with my day. I meant to look at them on my computer later on but I forgot.

The following day I clicked on them again to pick some that I liked. As I flipped through I was kind of shocked at what was happening. I actually liked a majority of them. Sure, there were a couple I didn’t, but it was really no big deal.

I talked to my coach, Isabel Foxen Duke (further proof we all need a coach!) about these pictures after the fact. In talking to her, she helped me realize something. I looked at the pictures, didn’t like some, and moved on with my day. There was no lingering feeling of “I’m so fat”, no salad for dinner, and no proclamations of my latest diet plan. The progress was not that I loved every single one of the pictures, the progress was that I didn’t really care about the ones I disliked.

Bottom line is that we are never going to like every picture of ourselves. I’m sure even Giselle has a picture or two she would like to destroy. This is normal. What aren’t normal are the obsessive thoughts that follow these pictures. The change happens when we are able to accept that we are not going to love every picture of ourselves and that is okay, but we don’t like ourselves any less because of it.

Still confused… check out this post Isabel wrote a long time ago. Two pictures taken in the same night and she looks incredibly different.

It’s okay to have “fat pictures”. It’s not okay to diet over them.

Do Christmas Cookies Make you Crazy? – The Path to Holiday Sanity

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For years, between the months of October and December it seemed like my health and body image always took a backseat to an overload of cookies, sweets, baggy clothes, and the winter blues.

It’s always a fun time of year, between holidays, friends, family, and parties, but at the same time, all of this fun often led up to a whole lot of stress. Everything from my finances, to what to wear suddenly seemed like an overwhelming burden and I often compensated for this stress by over analyzing my food choices.

I would meal plan, restrict, and count calories, all in the hopes of looking amazing by the time Christmas day came around. The problem was, my anxiety, that I was convinced was about my weight, was actually about things like seeing long-lost friends, getting along with family, and my money. I never actually addressed these fears and every time I slipped up on my diet, I felt like I just couldn’t take it any more.

The anxiety I was ignoring, thanks to my diet, was then taken out on cake, chocolate, and candy, which I had likely, previously denied myself at a party the night before. Since these times, I’ve finally figured out how to combat holiday stress and now I’m going to share some of my tips with you. Here are 3 of my favorite tips to stay sane during the holidays.

1. Get clear on your emotions.

Don’t let your stress take a backseat. Get clear on what it is that is causing your stress or anxiety and tackle it. If it’s finances, make a budget, if it’s your family, give them a call and talk it out now. Likely your stress over your weight is simply a side effect of a bigger fear. Figure out what that fear is and tackle it.

2. Don’t go on a restrictive diet, or even try to diet during the holidays.

Instead, keep your focus on eating quality whole foods, staying healthy, and weight maintenance. Stressing about your weight or food choices is only going to add on to the stress of the holidays. Plus the increased guilt whenever you eat something not entirely healthy will actually put you at an increased risk to gain weight. De-stress and give yourself permission to enjoy the season.

3. SELF CARE.

It’s very easy when things get busy and stressful to put yourself last on the list of priorities but I want you to make this year different. Consciously take 30 minutes per day for you. Do something you love everyday. Stay active. Get enough sleep. Take days off. It may take some creative scheduling or saying “no” on your part but I promise it is worth it!

I think this is an excellent time of year to put yourself first and really address your health. Why? Because this is the time of year when we often put ourselves last, in favor of everything else in our lives. Remember when you take care of yourself first, you are better able to care for everyone else around you.

Now you tell me….

What are your tips for staying sane during the holidays? 

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