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Body Perfection is in the Process

When I started health coaching I felt the need to be perfect. I could absolutely not own up to any of the problems I struggled with, nor could I admit when I had a bad day or even a “fat” day. I wanted to come across as perfectly put together. I had all the answers and I was completely 100% cured of any poor relationship with food or body. Then I got real with myself.

Pretending I was perfect was making me crazy. I was trying to only eat “healthy” foods, not diet, and do all the workouts I was prescribing to clients. Never once did I acknowledge that maybe it was okay to be imperfect.  Then my coach brought something up to me. She proposed that perhaps I start aiming to be mediocre. Me, type A, perfectionist be mediocre? Never going to happen I thought. Then it hit me. I was driving myself crazy trying to be perfect and I simply am not.

Yes, I am a health coach that still has fat days and still has days where all I want is chocolate.  Sometimes I even skip a workout. But I actually think that this makes me human. This makes me relatable. When my client tells me she had a fat day I know exactly how she feels. Plus, the problem wasn’t the “fat days”, it was how I dealt with them. The change really happened when I started learning what to do when those “fat feelings” come up. I have learned that my weight doesn’t define me, and the more I fight it, the worse it gets.

But wait. If I am not perfect and I am not “cured” how does that give hope to anyone?

Here’s the thing – no one is perfect. I am constantly on a journey to find self-love and peace with food. Am I closer than I was a year ago, or 5 years ago? Absolutely. Do I never have a crazy thought about food, or a mean thought about my body? No way. In my opinion, building a peaceful relationship with food after years of damage is a process. There is no miraculous end goal of never having a crazy thought again.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Geneen Roth and in it she says, “The process is the goal”. When we stop waiting for that “perfect” end result, we not only learn to live in the present, but we also learn to respect the process. The “process” is actually your life.

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Instead of being numbed by the desire to reach perfection, start getting comfortable with the journey to that point. Tweet it! It is a long one, but when you finally start to enjoy it, that ultimate goal becomes far less important.

If you want more support with your process, I would love to help. Apply here for a free strategy session to learn what it would be like to work together. I can’t wait to talk!

 

How to accomplish your “when I’m skinny” goals without ever losing a pound

“The Future Belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams”-Eleanor Roosevelt

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I want to share with you a secret…one that took me a very long time to figure out. If you don’t dream or set goals you will never ever accomplish them! Writing our goals down our paper makes us so much more likely to actually accomplish them.

I want you to think about your dreams…leave behind the ifs, buts, and when’s, and just dream. How can you accomplish them?

Think about it, how often have you sat there and thought:

-“I’m sure I would have a boyfriend (or get engaged, or fall in love) when I lose the weight”

– “I would join that gym once I’ve lost a little more weight”

-“I will buy that dress when I’m a little happier with my size”

-“I’ll go on vacation when I lose the weight”

-“I can have the chocolate once I’ve lost a little weight”

How can you reverse this thinking? Make some goals and go after them. It can be as simple as buying a dress you’ve been wanting or as elaborate as planning a move to your dream location you’ve been waiting forever to move to.

Step One: Create a ten-year vision. Where do envision yourself in ten years? Who will you live with? Who is in your life? What do you do? Where do you live? How do you feel? How do you look? Write it all down. Make a vision board. Write daily reminders to remind you of your vision. Here’s an example: My 10-year vision is to live by the beach in California; my bedroom is currently decorated with starfish, blues, and beach pictures. It is a perfect daily reminder that my beautiful dream of living on the beach is 100% possible if I dare to dream it!

So we’ve created your 10-year vision, now set some specific goals for those ten years, then set some specific 5-year goals, and then some 1-year goals. When are you going to accomplish these by?

This is meant to be fun so I want you to dream. It’s totally fine if you don’t end up checking off anything on your goals list. The point is to dream about them. Maybe you don’t become a professional dancer but you might just start taking some dance classes. My big scary, dare to dream goal is to be a Crossfit competitor and maybe I won’t get quite there but I may just start committing to more Crossfit classes and finally get that strict pull up I’ve been waiting for.

So let’s do this: block off some time to dream. Set some goals, get after what you can, and don’t be afraid to dream. If you don’t ever dream it, it can never happen!

Let me know what you come up with in the comments below! 

P.S Sarah Jenks’ program Live More Weigh Less is officially open for enrollment! To check or to learn more sign up for her free training here

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