Even as a child, I remember walking with my mom and comparing her legs in the shadows to mine.
𝘏𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘺… 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘺.
2 years ago I had just moved back to Massachusetts. Feeling defeated, out of shape, and not wanting to be around anyone I would walk Sophie every day and consider it my workout.
I wanted to hide so my eyes were constantly down, and I’d be face to face with my shadow.
I was quickly reminded of my wide shoulders that I hated.
My lack of a waist from my nutrition I couldn’t get under control.
And those short stumpy legs.
The other day while out for a walk with Sophie, I looked down and caught a glimpse of that same shadow. This time, I didn’t cringe.
It was such a good reminder that something seemingly so insignificant could be a true marker of the progress I’ve made over the past few years.
𝐋𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐞.
This had to do with my mindset, and sure with my body changing, but also in how I see myself.
𝘈 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴.
𝐄𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐧-𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬. 🙌
What is one non-scale win you can celebrate?
Whether your jeans are too tight or too loose…
Whether you got fitter or feel slower…
Whether you lost strength or feel stronger…
𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
𝘐𝘵 𝘬𝘦𝘱𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘥𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘤.
Whether you fed it with Oreos, green juice, or a little of both it was there for you.
Whether you worked it into the ground, or chose to let it rest & recover with some Netflix, it still kept you moving.
Your fitness will come back
Your body can still change.
Show gratitude for your body.
Address & protect your mental health.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞.
I get this question a lot when I share transformation pictures, and I always sense a feeling of disappointment when I share that there’s no magical trick, I simply follow a nutrition plan and exercise.
But it got me thinking about what else I could share to help, and one thing that has certainly changed over the past couple years has been my mindset.
I can honestly say for the first time in a really long time, I stopped tying my goals to my weight.
𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 “𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭” 𝐨𝐫 “𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐮𝐩”.
This was the case at times when I had no weight to lose, and also when I had 30+ lbs to lose.
𝘔𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴.
Slowly, over the past year or so my goals have started to shift, and interestingly so has my body.
When I stopped focusing on my weight and started focusing on improving my fitness, feeling better, and pushing myself during my workouts, I started to notice that my body changing was a byproduct, but no longer the focus.
I stopped stressing about a number on the scale, and started to get a lot less frustrated with my progress or lack thereof. Instead I simply focused on how I could feel my best and healthiest each day.
I no longer feel like I need to start and stop a program, fall on or off track, or start the next diet on Monday.
If you are someone who feels plagued by your weight or the scale, or forever stuck in the yo-yo diet cycle, I want to assure you, it doesn’t have to be forever.
Focus on moving your body more.
Focus on fueling your body better.
Focus on how much better you want to feel.
When you focus on your health, on your fitness, on your mindset…
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞.
On my coaching journey I had a small group of people who didn’t really believe in me.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩.
𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘓𝘖𝘖𝘒 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.
And for a really long time I let the opinions of those few people really hold me back.
𝐈 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲.
Then I met some very amazing people.
A boss who helped me through many breakdowns in his office, yet still hired me and taught me everything he knew about fitness.
A retired special ed teacher who had built my dream business working from home, and saw something in me I most definitely did not.
The most amazing fitness friends and coaches who worked right alongside me to get better every day, and sometimes just show up for therapy.
With time, I slowly learned to stop focusing on the small group of people who doubted me, and started to focus on the larger group of people who loved and supported me. That’s where my journey changed.
It can be really easy to focus on the negative people right along with all of the things we think we lack, but I want to challenge you to see past that.
Focus on the people who do believe in you, even if you don’t have much faith in yourself just yet.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰. 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐫. 💛
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐’𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘫𝘰𝘣 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘴.
𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘹𝘺𝘻.
Guess what? No matter what changed, and what I accomplished, happiness never came.
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭.
I started to focus on finding happiness in the little things.
I started to find gratitude in the small things I had right now.
I started to live more in the present instead of wishing for the when.
My life may be upside down right now, and there is a lot I wish would change, but I also know that it is 100% out of my control. What I can control is my mindset so I’m 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 to be grateful and happy.
What about you?! 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 ?